The other day, I was chatting with someone close to me (I wont say who). I was telling a story about a friend (who I wont name) who happens to be gay- it wasn't the point of the story but it was a factor. And this person-who-is-close-to-me says:
"Honey, do you know what a fag hag is?"
"YES I know what a fag hag is .... OH. You don't mean.... I'M NOT A FAG HAG!!!"
"Well you have a lot of gay friends!"
"Yeah well I have a lot of straight friends too! It's the theatre community!! Its not my fault! I have many straight friends too!!"
"That's fine! I believe you...I just wanted you to be aware of that term and what it means..."
"I am NOT a fag hag. In the first place, you have to be a hag to be a fag hag and I am NOT a hag...right?!?"
"No you're not a HAG!"
"I think I spend an even amount of time with gay and straight boys....and girls."
"Ok OK! I understand, I just wanted to check!"
Click Here for Urban Dictionary's Definition of Fag Hag
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Needless to say, I had to check....so I asked my straight friend CJ.
"You're not a fag hag...and even if you were, it wouldn't be your fault! It's unavoidable with theatre! (so right, CJ! so right) But you're not!"
yessssss!
Ok. I still have my doubts, but whatever! I am NOT a fag hag! I KNOW some fag hags and I am NOT like them....Now, in the FH's defense, Grace from Will & Grace is considered to be a fag hag and I LOVE Grace....and I love Will...and I love Will & Grace (does that make me more of a fag hag?!) But you know, people have said I'm more of a Karen then a Grace, which in itself is not much better, and I don't know if I really agree, but these are fictional characters so why am I still making this comparison?!?! I'm going to get a gay guy and gay girl opinion and a straight girl opinion tonight! I'll report back.
did you reach a consensus on whether or not you're a fag hag? ahaha. i wouldn't worry about it too much. people love to use labels that broadly generalize groups of people, which is why a girl with even a few gay friends is automatically considered an FH. but if that's the case, then most of my girlfriends are hags. just saying.
ReplyDeleteHaha, hey now, the majority of gay people I know are not involved in theatre - and almost all the people I know doing serious theatre are not gay!
ReplyDeleteIt's those gay art majors... lol
Dominic. I did reach a consensus. I was told I was looking at the term in a negative light and that I shouldn't worry about it because its a good thing considering "only ugly fags have ugly hags"(their words! not mine) lol so I just asked them not to call me one openly...and so far, they've been pretty good about respecting it haha.
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